"Stop trying to have a baby and you will!"

SERIOUSLY? I MEAN SERIOUSLY? I honestly don't know how someone can say this to someone else who is trying for a baby. It's really that easy, huh? All I have to do is just "stop trying" and it'll happen? Funny, I thought you had to do the baby dance to have a baby. I'll just  go about my life and maybe "when I least expect it" a fetus will just MAGICALLY APPEAR in my uterus. THANK YOU!

If you know someone who is trying to conceive and being unsuccessful, don't say this to them. It is the most disrespectful, most hurtful thing you can say. Because those of us who are ACTUALLY trying to have a baby, understand how every bit of it works. We've done research, we've charted out temperature, we've been having sex when we are supposed to.

How are you supposed to stop trying when you're trying to get pregnant? That doesn't make ANY sense.. If you're having trouble, just "stop trying"? What?

Don't be this person.

Fertility (or lack thereof) differs from woman to woman. Some can get pregnant accidentally and just be lucky that they happen to be in the right time in their cycle... others try for months.. even YEARS with no luck. Trust me. If "just not trying" was that easy, you wouldn't even NEED infertility specialists or charts to help you, because everyone would just "stop trying".

Holy Hell! I wish I had just thought it was that easy.. I wonder why I'm wasting my money on prenatal vitamins and Ovulation Predictor Kits? Why am I wasting my time charting my basal temperatures in the morning and monitoring my CM? Why am I doing so much research and having doctors tell me how it should happen? If all I had to do was "stop trying" then why do all these things exist?

Please stop telling me to "stop trying". Please stop telling me to "stop stressing". Please just be supportive of me and say useful, uplifting things... It's hard enough to endure a BIG FAT NEGATIVE HPT without being accused of 'stressing and trying to hard."

just... stop.